Wednesday, April 16, 2008

A Few Good Eggs

So, what does egg quality mean anyway? Two IRL infertiles that are younger than me are now nursing their newborns at home. Both got pregnant after me with just mediocre eggs. There are other friends too. All around 30 years old. My doctor was always proud of the eggs that I produced but, that hasn't gotten me a child. How can beautiful text book quality eggs just fall flat? Old eggs that's how!!!

My husband wanted to play the odds this time around and put four back. He figured it was better to get pregnant with multiples and let nature sort things out. His hope was that we would end up with the one good egg in the batch. The only problem was my RE said he would not freeze three embryos (one of which wasn't as good as the others). I would have had to discard two seemingly great embryos. I just refused do it. I realize now if I just kicked and screamed alittle he probably would have. It is just hard to think of every possible detail while dressed in a paper gown in a cold OR.

I can only hope for the best and figure out the worse later.

8 comments:

the Babychaser: said...

I don't think my doc would transfer four, even if we begged, but we've always done three. Just to improve the odds. Even though triplets truly would be an unmitigated disaster.

So, assuming you're looking for the same odds I am, I'm rooting for two of your embies to take hold! As for the third, well, survival of the fittest, right?

So did you freeze the two remaining ones? I was a bit confused (and now I can't go back and re-read without losing this comment!). Take comfort--whatever your doctor refused to freeze, he did so because they weren't going to make it. Can you imagine spending all that money on a freeze, then going through all the FET prep, only to end up with nothing to transfer?

I'm rooting for you with your two-week wait. I'm three days from the end of mine, and it's killing me.

Working Girl said...

Hey Baby Chaser - In the end I only transferred three so that I would be able to freeze the remaining four. I haven't heard anything from RE's office and can't remeber what day freezing occurs.

I have my fingers crossed for you!!! The waiting sucks!!!

soapchick said...

My RE would've transferred 4 for me, but I didn't produce that many. I only had 2 make it to transfer day. Having 3 blasts is awesome and I bet this will be it for you! Good luck!

Freyja said...

Please don't beat yourself up for not having magic ESP on the spot. Please don't second guess yourself for making the best decision you could at the time. Neither of these things are fair to you.

the Babychaser: said...

Four to freeze is great! That way, if one or two of them don't survive the thaw, you've still got two good ones to transfer.

We ended up with two frosties this cycle. First time we've ever had ANY left to freeze, as our embryo survival rate totally blows. I'm hoping this means we made a stronger batch this cycle, and the ones inside are doing well.

Of course, at the same time that I'm freaking out about a possible BFN, I'm also totally losing my mind considering the possibility of triplets.

Ah, the insanity.

When's your beta? I'll be lurking.

TABI said...

Keeping my fingers crossed for you! I hope those embies snuggle in tight!! WIshing a nice BFP at the end of your 2ww!!

Pamela Jeanne said...

Catching up on my blog reading. Wishing you all the best on this cycle...

Kami said...

Good luck! Did you hear if the others froze?

I had similar issues - great looking eggs / embryos and poor pg rates. It sucks.

I hope you will be successful and you are surviving the 2ww